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Are you the only optimistic person you know? Perhaps that one person in your work place who loves using the word ‘no’ to any suggestion? Perhaps your spouse or loved one who is constantly negative, the kind of person that would see one tiny cloud in the sky as an indication of a gloomy day. Or even a good mate who ‘knows’ the home team will lose because…well…because he just knows it. Or that one person in your drinking group that is constantly complaining about anything under the sun.
If you are in this situation and you’re bursting with positivity and personal growth that just does not seem to be catching on with the ones you know, there are a few tactics you can deploy to get those negative bugs off. It’s important to want to change someone’s negative perception because sooner or later, their negativity can infect you! And that is the LAST thing you want!
SMILE
Always smile. Keep that frown off your face. A smile can spread on and on. When you smile you radiate happiness. When other’s see you smile, they have to return it. DO a test. Do a random smile test now. Right now! Just get into a queue at the supermarket or at the bus stand. Smile at everyone that crosses your path. Chances are you won’t get any frowns. It’s not a crime to smile. And when they do, even if they are having the toughest day of their life, just by smiling at you, a little positivity will seep into them. It can’t be helped!
COMPLIMENT
Say something nice to the person whose pessimistic vibes are really getting to you. Compliments are a great way to make someone’s day and occasionally, that good feeling will be a reminder for that person about what’s good in their life. So give a compliment but one that’s well meant and not just another cliche like “You look great!’ Something specific like “I like it when you smile, it lights up your face.usually works! You would be amazed!.
TO HELL WITH PUNISHMENTS
The worst thing you can do to a super negative person is to punish them. Let’s say your child does not have much confidence and because of that negativity, he does not do well in school, punishing the kid won’t do well for his esteem. Or if your friend is always late, teasing him or getting angry at his lack of time management won’t help you one bit. In fact it might make him want to piss you more the next time. Punishments reinforce negativity, they don’t eliminate them. Which takes us to the next point.
POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT
If you are stuck with a person oozing negativity, gently nudge them with positive thoughts. Instead of pinpointing on the things they do wrong, point out what they do right. Say your always-late pal, if he ever happens to make it early (or earlier than usual) one day, tell him how good it is that he made it on time and how much you appreciate it. Positive encouragements will make the person feel more confident with themselves. Or if your spouse says that she thinks she’s not good enough the higher job position, don’t say ‘ Well, if you think you can’t you won’t.” instead say “You know what? I believe in you.” It’s a great way to instill positivity and motivate personal growth in any person!
Below you can watch a brilliant <b>business mind movie</b> created by my friend, the well-known ezine articles author Martin Jeszke, first published on his self improvement blog and on YouTube. Enjoy!